Kissing

Kissing is under-utilized.  I remember being 16 years old and feeling like a good kiss or make-out session was the best possible thing that could happen to me.  It seems like when we get married the make-out session looses it's power.  We get in the mindset of "get it over with" or "we only have 15 minutes" and such.  Sometimes what we really need is to just get back to our randy teenage roots and embrace the art of making out.  I doesn't even need to lead anywhere!  Sometimes it might even be a little more fun if you don't let it lead somewhere-keep a little mystery and excitement there. :) 

Find your inner goddess

Having a good sexual experience and feeling confident sexually comes from so many places.  Your own history with sex, confidence, and many other parts of your past can greatly influence your attitude.  I think that being confident in who you are and that you are sexy is one of the biggest things.  It can be hard when you are at home all day, stuck in the office, overwhelmed, depressed, or just stuck in a rut.  Finding something that makes you feel like a goddess is important to boosting your confidence and, in turn,creating a more positive sexual experience.  When you feel good about yourself it is easier to enjoy yourself, and to let your lover enjoy you! 
I have found a particular type of exercise called Zumba that has just made a world of difference for me.  Not only has it helped me lose some weight but it has helped me tone up, loosed up my joints, get more limber, and start to work muscles I didn't even know where there!  After I get out of that class I feel like a beautiful, sexy, motivated woman.  In addition to the health benefits I get the mental break of having "me" time and the awesome rush of endorphins that comes with exercise. 
Whether or not Zumba is something that can help you get in touch with that inner goddess, I hope you find whatever it is that works for you!  You can be a better wife, mother, employee, daughter, or whatever role you fill, when you are happy.  Give yourself some "me" time!  Set up a time and don't let it get pushed aside.  Doing something solely for yourself will make you feel so great!  Then you can do something great for that special someone. :) 

Anyone? Anyone?

Are you out there?  I love chatting my fingers off about the things that interest me-but I'd love for this to be a little more interactive.  Does anyone have a question/comment/suggestion for a post?   I want this to be a place where you can ask questions or just talk about things you may be hesitant to talk about elsewhere.  Shoot me an email or make a comment! Come on people!! :D  Anonymity is the name of the game if that is your pleasure. 

Halloween has come and gone and as I have previously posted-that means great bedroom attire!  There are some great costumes out there that you may think are too risque for normal wear, but they make some awesome lingerie!  Check out some of the Halloween websites and you can find some good deals since it's right after the holiday.  Love it!!  Will you be the saucy pirate?  Naughty Grecian princess?  There's TONS of possibilities.

Some fun bedroom recommendations

This may be one of my racier posts so far, but I'm pretty excited about it! I would like to give some recommendations of my personal favorites of things that can help spice it up a little in the boudoir. :) I've got a little bit of everything here and for all sorts of comfort levels. First off: Apparel. Lingerie is dang expensive!!! I hardly ever buy it becuase why sepend tons of $$ on something you wear for 30 seconds? Well I'm in love with Fredericks of Hollywood-namely-the Clearance section. They always have a HUGE selection of stuff for pretty cheap prices. Of course they have things that are higher up on the monetary food chain-but if you're a bargain shopper-I bet you can find something you like.

Next category: Lube. There are two basic kinds of lube-water based and silicone based. I'm a huge fan of water based because it is easily rehydrated and easy to clean up. Silicone based has it's place if you're in the shower or hot tub or something-but I generally like the water based kind. My favorite brand is Astroglide. It's not to thick and syrupy and it doesn't have any weird granuals like the warming kinds can. Overall-it's fairly inexpensive (they even sell it at Wal-Mart) and it does a great job!

Moving on to the next step of spice: Vibrating rings. Now there are TONS of different kinds of these. If you're not comfortable walking into a dimly lit boutique with questionable people mulling around while you shop for toys-I don't blame you! :) You can get some really low-key vibrating rings at your local retailer right next to the condoms. There are rings with one or two vibrators on it so you can choose how intense you would like it. These are disposable so you can't replace the batteries but the ones that come in it may last for a couple sessions. If you feel like you're not getting
the fully desired effect from these-you can amp it up and get one with higher powered bulletts and replaceable batteries. There's one from Slumber Parties that was described as "turning your man into a human vibrator" and, oh mama, does it ever. This thing packs a punch for both of you! I highly recommend it!

Disposable ring-two vibrators

 

Disposable ring-one vibrator

 
 

The Screaming O-Tri-O Triple Pleasure Ring

 

Slumber Parties - "Double Our Pleasure Deluxe"





Just Do It.

I'm not purposely ripping off a popular slogan from years ago, I swear.  I'm referring to sex. Sometimes life just gets in the way of having a good sex life.  As the beginning of a relationship it may drive your time with your significant other and be the way to want to pass the time-while burning calories :). As a relationship settles into a routine sex can fall by the wayside as a recreational activity and become viewed as work; and all you want after a hard day is to add another thing to your "to-do" list.  I've realized that I may be dead tired, my DH is needing some loving, I'm not feeling the urge and it's easy to play the "I'm too tired" card; but it's important not to do this.  When one person in the relationship makes the effort to get the mood right or just to move in that direction, it's important to try and feel that and go with it.  You may not feel the desire--at first.  It seems like if I go with it and indulge my hubby when he's pining for a little loving--by the time we're into it I realize I needed it and am enjoying it as much as he is! 

So instead of wrapping up tight and giving your lover the cold shoulder; bring them in close and remember those hot nights that you craved.  Let it get started and then enjoy the ride as you enjoy that most special time with your lover!

My first follower!!!

Guess what readers!  I got my first follower today!  WOOHOOO!!!!  I know this blog isn't extremely well known yet, but I LOVE knowing that there are people reading and responding to my posts.  This is a subject that needs to be discussed but we tend be embarassed about it.  I want this to be a safe place where we can be honest and work on opening up and enjoying a great part of ourselves.  Pass the blog on to others and lets get some more followers.  YAY!!!

What do you want to try?

Okay, let's get down to it.  What do you really like or wish you could try with your partner?  I think this can be a great way to offer ideas to other like-minded people.  I think role-playing can be SO much fun!  When you've been with the same person for so long it is really easy to get into a routine and let the heat fizzle.  I love going on a date with my DH and start asking him about himself. (how many kids in his family, his interests, etc.)  It's fun to feel like you're learning new things about each other and remember that feeling from when you first got together. 

There's lots of other ways to bring new excitment into your sex life as well.  Depending on what does it for you there's everything from a new position, lingerie, or even toys.  (there's a full spectrum of tame to crazy out there.)  Mixing it up can be great!  What do you do to feel that heat again?  Do you ever have the problem of feeling like you're having sex just because you're supposed to, instead of the desire to please each other?  Let's talk about it!  This is the place for it people!