Feeling Sexy

You know how there's some night when you're feeling hot and those nights when you feel the complete opposite?  What is it that makes the difference for you? 
I know some of the things that can really make me feel hot are when my hair works and is shiny, sexy, and bouncy (you know-shampoo commercial hair), when my make-up cooperated that day, maybe I'm feeling a little more in shape or my clothes just worked, if these things come together (along with freshly shaven legs)-I can feel pretty glamorous!  But then there's nights like last night.  I had been cleaning all day and was in my work out clothes.  My hair was up in a ponytail and not a smack of make-up on my face.  I was not feeling glamorous, but my hubby was totally into my look.  I wish I could've immediately felt sexy and been workin' it, but since I wasn't all glammed up, I didn't feel it.
Why do we do these kinds of things to ourselves?  Why do we feel like we have to look one specific way in order to feel sexy-even if our men feel differently?  I think I'm a child of the magazine generation.  When I am standing in line at the grocery store I'm always checking out the covers of the magazines and comparing myself to the latest super skinny women who have been airbrushed and had hair/make-up teams. It's ridiculous. I am trying really hard to realize that when my DH is liking what he sees, then I need to embrace it and work it!  I'm not saying my hubby doesn't like it when I get all snazzy and sexy-but I definitely need to appreciate my man who enjoys the natural look as well. 
I guess this all goes along with learning to feel comfortable and sexy in our own skin-even if it's not what we believe is perfect.  We can try to better ourselves while still loving our hotness!!  If we are loving ourselves it is so much easier to open up and allow that special man to enjoy us as well.

Do you feel comfortable with yourself?  What things bring out your inner goddess?

What are your hang ups?

I think there are a few major hang-ups that women have that get in the way of really enjoying sex.  One major one (at least for me) is being totally comfortable with my own body.  I don't know one woman who would stand naked in front of a mirror and be totally satisfied with what she is seeing.  We are so hyper-critical of ourselves that it can really get in the way of enjoying being intimate.  I know that when I'm feeling insecure about my body I'm not as likely to initiate getting intimate because I'm not feeling confident in myself.  There's always the "lights off" or "staying under the sheet" method to try and camoflauge, but neither of those are very good options because that means we are restricting ourselves. 
When I catch my husband checking me out if I'm hopping in the shower-the first thing I think is "bend your leg so the cellulite doesn't look as prominent" or "suck in your gut!"  I KNOW that is not what he's thinking.  I try to realize that even though I see every pound, he just sees the sexy woman he loves, and is totally turned on by. 

Another major problem that comes with the "good girl" territory is guilt.  Do you feel guilty at all when you're having sex?  I've heard of many women feeling like it's still a bad thing to have sex even when married, or feeling like it's bad to enjoy it.  The reality is so opposite!  Sex is great!!  Sex is such a wonderful thing that is meant to be enjoyed in the right circumstances!  We have to work with our own psyches and try to pinpoint why we feel silly or guilty,  instead of allowing ourselves to thorougly enjoy sex. 


What do you think?  What would you say are some of the major things that keep you from really enjoying the awesome intimate time with your partner?